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TAT helped me recover from traumatic experiences of childhood sexual abuse by my father. TAT was one of the many modalities that I partnered with to help me heal emotionally.

Here is one of my most powerful experiences with TAT…

Several years ago, my father was in the hospital suffering with a diseased heart. The night of his passing, I truly did not feel like I was able to honestly and with integrity be physically present with him and my family. I prayed and did TAT and found that indeed I would be most loving and most compassionate for his process by staying home, in my room, lighting candles, playing soft gentle music, and talking with him as he transitioned thru this life. I spent a lot of that time making a blessing card/ bookmarker for him too. My sisters and brothers kept calling…you still have time to make it, you could be here, are you sure you want to do this this way? I never felt more sure, more filled with unconditional love for him, for our relationship, and for my gift of offering peace to his process.

I attended the wake and the funeral. Before closing the casket in the church service, I was able to whisper into his ear that I loved him, and that I wished him peace and that I truly forgave him. I also slipped the bookmarker into his shirt pocket as I said my final goodbye.

It said, “Daddy, May the next phase of your journey be peaceful, gentle, full of love; May you see Beauty in all there is; May you honor your higher self. I wish Joy and Hope to you. I thank you for your gifts this lifetime. I forgive you. I thank the little soul in you. I see you smiling and joyful. I see you happy, healthy and peaceful. I pray your soul contracts were completed. I wish you love and forgiveness, tenderness and harmony forever more. Love, Velma Dawn”

I have no regrets of that night, I know that I was able to clear the emotional boulders of my relationship with him, to be able to see where my most reverent loving place would be. I know that I was exactly where I could be of the greatest service in that moment. TAT was a huge source of that strength and clarity for me.


Velma Alford
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I treated a woman in her 50s. She came in to work on her issues of confidence and self-esteem. She has troubles at work with colleagues and boss. I sensed there was something else, so I asked if there was something important she forgot to tell me. This set off the whole thing. She burst into tears and cried like her heart was shattered into pieces for a while. I knew there’s very deep wound that she couldn’t even mention. I hold her hands and instructed her to do TAT. We did step one on ‘Whatever made me feel so painful right now has happened.’ She was so devastated that she could hardly hold the Pose. But once she did step two, she started to calm down significantly. I didn’t ask her to tell me her story. It was not until we did ‘all places’ she revealed to me that she was raped by a gang of boys when she’s 10 and she’s threatened not to tell anyone. This has been her secret for her entire life since.

During the forgiveness steps there’s still huge anger, so I asked her to do the pose and see the event from the point of view of the gang members. She’s able to get a new insight. She even saw one of the boys told her ‘To live well and be happy.’ I can see a great burden that she’s been caring for so long, falling down from her shoulder; she’s no longer the helpless 10 years old at work or in life. She’s whole again. Her face was glowing. I am sure this will help a great deal with her confidence and self-esteem.

 

Shu-Fang Wang
TAT Professional and Trainer (click here for Shu-Fang's's contact and practice information)

 


I am 39 years old. Three years ago, I remembered I had been regularly sexually abused by my father from ages 2 to 5. My mother used to send me to be with my father to get abused as it would lessen his general hostility.

When all these memories came to the surface, I was a filled with grief, anger, and devastation. I suddenly understood my resentment to my mother, my fear of my father and the floundering state of my life. I took 5 months off work. My self-esteem plummeted. I was a wreck.

For the past 3 years, I have floundered, slowly getting neutral, but never quite there. My relationships with my family have been distant and empty. I have been living but very disengaged, dissatisfied, and unhappy, yet unclear how to help myself.

I have done TAT twice in the past 10 days. I (now) have no charge about having been sexually abused. I have forgiven my father - which is HUGE. I don’t want to reconnect with him, but I harbor no ill feelings towards him at all. I have forgiven my mother which is also HUGE - we talked today and had a kind and gentle conversation with connection. I can’t remember ever having that with her. I was more open with her than I have ever been. I see her for her - not for what she didn’t give me - this is HUGE. I can go on with the other people I have forgiven, but the essence is, I feel gentle, light, and good.

I talked with a long time friend and in sharing with her, we could both tell how genuinely free I am. THANK YOU so much. I am grateful to Tapas Fleming for bringing this into reality and offering it to people. My heartfelt thank you, Tapas Fleming. May the love, light and freedom your technique is giving people surround you and uplift you.

-- Clare in Canada

 


A year ago when I did TAT, I was having all these feelings and thoughts going through my head. I no longer have those. It feels great. It's wonderful to feel a bit more at peace and thinking a little straighter. The thoughts that were coming in my head of negativity and dirtiness don't enter into my mind anymore in that way that would just pull me down. Now I can stay focused on my studies and I feel a lot better for it and I feel more positive about life and better. It's a nice feeling.
Woman in first demonstration on Healing Rape and Sexual Abuse with TAT video


I had worked with the TAT a year ago with Tapas and she did work with me about some rape in my past as a teenager. So that would be some years ago. It had just recently surfaced and it was blocking me. I found I have not had anything re-occurring and it was approximately a year ago. The work has held. I am very impressed. It hasn't come up in my consciousness so it's obviously cleared. When you do the work, you feel it clear in the moment. Some people are skeptical and they wonder "How does a person feel in six months?" It's gone. The results are really great.
Woman in second demonstration on Healing Rape and Sexual Abuse with TAT video

 


 

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