Shortly after I did the TAT workshop, I remembered that in my Reiki training my teacher advised doing a mental healing using the phrase "I dissolve all unhealthy connections between myself and ________. He/she is free, and I am free." I decided to use that as part of a TAT session on myself. I was working on my relationship with my husband, and as step 1 I used "(my husband) and I sometimes relate to each other in unhealthy and unproductive ways". For step 2 I said "I dissolve all unhealthy connections between me and (my husband). He and I are free to love and relate to each other in healthy and productive ways".

When I did step 1 I had a sense of wading through something dark that dragged at me, as though I were trying to walk through something more dense than water. While doing step 2, I saw an image of my husband and me with cords connecting the two of us, some of them dark, some of them filled with light. As I sat in the pose, the dark cords dissolved, leaving only the ones filled with light. It was wonderful!

Since that session, my husband and I have begun to talk more openly with each other. While we still disagree, as any couple will, I feel a new sense of peace and clarity in our relationship.

Thank you so much, Tapas!

Sare Arey, TAT Professional and Trainer (click here for Sara's contact and practice information)

I worked with a client the other day regarding her relationship with her husband. They had had problems in the past, but had worked through many of them. In fact, we had worked on a few different aspects of the relationship, and she felt there had been great progress. Still, she felt like there was something more that needed to be healed. For some reason, she didn’t feel like she could let herself be as close to him emotionally as she wanted to be.

For this session, we used the 3 Step Method that Tapas described in a recent newsletter. The specific steps we used were:

Step 1: Everything that led me to resonate and identify with every argument my husband and I have ever had happened.

Step 2: All that happened, it’s over, I’m okay and I no longer resonate or identify with that.

Step 3: I now resonate and identify with divine love in my relationship with my husband.

When she took her hands down after the last step, she was positively glowing. She said that all she felt when she thought of her husband was love and happiness.

I checked in with her the next day and she told me that she felt like she was in a new relationship, with no past, but that at the same time they had all the things that they had built together over the years, like their children and their life together. She said, “I feel like I’ve woken up in someone else’s life, and I love it!” One other comment she made was that she felt, and I agreed, that the other work she and I had done, and the changes she had then made in her approach to her relationship, had paved the way for this big healing.

She did tell me that she wanted to do the same steps with “all resentments I have ever felt toward my husband” in place of arguments, just to make sure everything was cleared out. I think that this would work beautifully for any relationship, and could include disappointments, hurt feelings, jealousy, etc.

Sare Arey, TAT Professional and Trainer (click here for Sara's contact and practice information)