Dear Friends,
I hope this finds you well and in good spirits.
We have a get-together for Boston starting with a workshop on Lasting Weight Loss on July 13. Find out how to maintain weight loss and reduce stress. Specific TAT Steps just for losing weight and keeping it off will be fully explained and you’ll be practicing TAT during the workshop.
Then we’ll have a Practicing Presence workshop on July 14-15. One of the most important things a TAT practitioner does is to be fully present with their client. The Practicing Presence workshop will help you:
- Gain listening and communication skills
- Increase personal presence
- Enhance love and compassion
When you do this, you become more present in all aspects of your life, including with yourself. This is a great workshop for anyone who wants to lead a fuller, more joyful, more present life.
The Boston workshops will be held at a beautiful retreat center, Westwoods, just outside Boston and convenient to the airport and interstates. The deadline for the discounted rates on the workshops is June 20. Please make your hotel reservations by June 20 in order to get our group rate. Hotel information can be found in the workshop descriptions in the online store. We have also set up a place in the TATLife forum for those who want to see about sharing hotel rooms and rides from the airport.
For those of you on the West Coast, we will be having the same two workshops in Santa Cruz at the end of July. The Lasting Weight Loss workshop will be July 27 and the Practicing Presence workshop will be July 28-29.
Several people have written to me recently with questions. Many of you may have the same or similar questions, so here are my replies.
Question:
What would be best for someone, like myself, who is constantly getting panic attacks, or there’s something going on in their life, which they are unable to stop happening at the moment? I would love to be able to say (these panic attacks) happened, it’s over (as you recommend for Step 2 – The Opposite of the Problem)…but my rational mind knows full well that it isn’t, and each time I have a bad panic attack I feel re-traumatized.
Answer:
Yes, I know what you mean about your rational mind knowing it isn’t over while you’re in the middle of a panic attack. At those times, do the TAT pose with the thought:
“This is happening and I’m OK.” “OK” means that although you are experiencing this panic attack, you are, at the same time, not truly affected. When you are in the TAT pose, you naturally come into a witness state – a distinction between you and your experience happens and there is an ease in allowing your experience to be what it is in that moment.
During a time when you’re not having a panic attack, do TAT like this:
Step 1 (the problem): Everything that led up to the panic attacks happened.
Step 2 (the opposite condition): That happened, it’s over, I’m okay and it’s no longer resulting in panic attacks.
Then do the rest of the Steps as usual (please see our free download on how to do TAT).
Question:
Does TAT interfere with homeopathy?
Answer:
TAT and homeopathy both work with subtle energy patterns to promote better health. It is very likely that your TAT work will improve your health and your homeopathic practitioner will then prescribe a different homeopathic remedy for you.
Let your homeopathic practitioner know that you are doing TAT and that you will probably need an updated prescription sooner than other patients.
If you’d like to enhance the homeopathic treatment, do the TAT pose while you have your homeopathic remedy close by. You can hold the remedy in your mouth or hold a container with the remedy in your hand or just have it near your as you hold the TAT pose. The intent to keep as you do this is “Yes” to this remedy or simply the feeling of allowing toward this remedy.
Question:
Can you say, “All the origins of this are healing now” AND “God (or whatever name you use for God), thank you for healing all the origins of this” instead of just one or the other?
Answer:
Yes – in fact, that’s a very good approach.
Question:
Is it better to give clients more information about TAT (origins, why it works, etc.), or just say “Do you want to try a technique I’ve learned that might help?”
Answer:
Do whatever works best for that particular client.
My experience is that most people just want to feel better and don’t really care about why it works, etc. But, if you have a client that wants to know more, tell them.
Question:
My son is depressed and angry and really needs TAT, but doesn’t want to have anything to do with it. What can I do?
Answer:
I understand that you love your son and really want to help, but we can’t give healing to someone who doesn’t want it. As hard as it is, let your son make his own choices.
What you can do is do TAT for yourself and on behalf of your whole family with the intent that it’s for whomever wants to receive this healing now. You could do something like:
Step 1: Everything that contributed to anger and depression in our family happened.
Step 2: Everything that contributed to anger and depression in our family happened, it’s over, we’re OK and it’s no longer resulting in anger or depression.
Then do the rest of the Steps as usual. Here are some other approaches.
Step 1: I can’t accept that my child won’t use TAT.
Step 2: I can accept that my child won’t use TAT.
Then do the rest of the Steps as usual.
Step 1: I am scared for my child and have to do something to help.
Step 2: I can relax and allow my child to make the decisions he/she feels are best without trying to help.
Then do the rest of the Steps as usual.
You can also use the 3 Step Method:
Step 1: Everything that led up to my resonating and identifying with my child’s anger and depression happened (or my impatience and need to help or whatever it is for you).
Step 2: Everything that led up to my resonating and identifying with my child’s anger and depression (or impatience and need to help or whatever it is for you) happened, it’s over, I’m okay and I no longer resonate or identify with that.
Step 3: I now resonate with Divine Love in my relationship with my child.
These are just suggestions. Use the approaches that work best for you.
Sometimes people find that once they work on their side of a problem, the dynamics of the relationship change and the other person’s behavior changes as well.
If your child is doing something that is truly harmful to herself or others, you may need the help of a licensed therapist or other health care provider. There are TAT Professionals who are also licensed clinicians. Please get the help you and your child need.
Question:
I watched one of the DVDs, and the steps were different from the chart in the free download. Which ones are right? Which ones should I use?
Answer:
When I first developed TAT, there was one step: Put your attention on the allergen while you sit in the pose. That was it … and it worked
The other steps that are listed in the download were gradually added in over the years based on my own personal experience, my experience with my clients, and feedback I got from people who were using TAT. The DVDs and CDs were made at different stages in this process of growth and change, so some of them have four steps, some have seven steps, and some have nine steps.
So how do you know which steps to use? At this time, the nine steps outlined in our free download seem to cover the bases the best. However, the steps you use are up to you – use the ones you feel are needed to completely clear up the problem you’re working on. Don’t worry about it if a step “wasn’t really needed” – it will become apparent to you that you don’t need to spend much time there because you’ll naturally feel that there’s nothing there to clear.
I have had people tell me that they were very uncomfortable either with that flexibility or with the fact that the steps change over time. If you are feeling that way, I recommend doing TAT on something like:
Step 1: I don’t like the flexibility of choosing which steps to do. I want it to stay the same every time. Or
I don’t like having this change like this. I want you to just pick one and stick with it.
Step 2: I’m ok with choosing which steps to do. I will either have a sense of which ones to do, or I will just do them all. Or
I’m ok with change.
You can then do the rest of the steps if you feel like it would be helpful.
If you have questions you’d like me to answer, please send them to Sara. Please keep in mind that it may take a few weeks before we get to yours. We hope you find these questions and answers helpful in your healing work.
For immediate help, contact one of our TAT Professionals. Many of the Professionals work over the phone with clients, so it isn’t necessary to find somebody near you. Look over the list of TAT Professionals and feel free to interview some of them so you can find out who’s a good match for you.
The Workshop 2000 recording – available as DVDs, CDs, and an MP3 download covers all the basics of TAT and is like taking a workshop in your own home. It is a wonderful resource for answering questions and is required for everyone who wants to be certified as a TAT Professional.
Please sign up for the Lasting Weight Loss and Practicing Presence workshops now – you’ll find many doorways to inner happiness and more radiant health.
Love and wishes for your every happiness,
Tapas
